“All children with Autism love stickers”
—- DC hates stickers! Hates them, but still people insist on giving him stickers, mailing him stickers and putting stickers on him! In the past, anytime we were at an event where a sticker was required, I always had to place it on the back of his shirt – he just could not stand it on the front (he wasn’t thrilled about having it on his back either, but he could tolerate it a little bit more there). Even now that he can tolerate a sticker on his shirt, I will hear about it the entire time it is there and he removes it the second we leave the event.
“All children with Autism love Legos”
—- DC hates Legos! Hates them, but still people insist on giving him Legos (not as much lately, but definitely when he was younger)
“All children with Autism love Minecraft”
—-DC hates Minecraft.
“All children with Autism love things that spin”
Okay, I’ll give you that one…………..
Other than his books and movies, the one thing DC really loves are Band-Aids. I am not completely sure that Band-Aids are on the list of what “Every child with Autism loves” – it is possible, I do not know, but I know that DC just loves them.
I believe the main reason for this obsession, as I mentioned in an earlier post, is that he’s never actually had the need for a Band-Aid – that I can recall.
I mean, I have really been lucky (still knocking wood), so much so that we’ve never had to use a Band-Aid. He loves Band-Aids and wants to wear them so much that he just wears them for no reason, or invents a reason the wear them. The one and only time he cut himself when he fell off his bike – yes, he somehow managed to tip over an adult three-wheeled bike – he was so excited to have a big raspberry on his chest, he wasn’t concerned about the fall, he just wanted a Band-Aid. He was so crushed that the raspberry was much too big for a Band-Aid, that I had to make up a reason to apply one to his leg, just to make him happy.
Band-Aids, especially “character-themed Band-Aids” are on his “odd gifts list” along with the rolls of scotch tape, mentioned in an earlier blog.”
This has been an off and on obsession with him since he was very young. Then, he seemed to forget about it for a few years, not that he would ever pass up an opportunity to wear a Band-Aid if he happened upon some, but it wasn’t a daily thing.
But now for some reason, the obsession has returned!
It started slowly…….
…..just a Band-Aid here and there once in a while, but it has slowly escalated into this:
We were in a department store not too long ago and DC came across a table filled with cases, yes cases, filled with 12 boxes of multiple sizes of Band-Aids.
One would have thought he’d found the Holy Grail!
“Mom! Band-Aids! P-LLLLL-EEEEE-ASE!”
– Yes, we bought them………
The ‘I want a Band-Aid’ hints begin almost every night with…
“Mom. my leg is itchy”
“Oh, really? I don’t see anything”
“Mom, my arm is itchy and my leg is itchy”
He doesn’t always come right out and ask for a Band-Aid, at times he will, but usually he will just continue to tell me his arm, leg or foot is itchy, until I finally give in and say…
“Okay, go ahead”
Then off he goes to apply his 3, 4 or more Band-Aids.
A few people have wondered and even asked why I “let” him do this.
Why? Seriously, these are the kind of issues that some people think I should be worried about?
I choose my battles and to me, this is not a battle. This is so far removed from a battle, that it is not even worth talking about – with him, that is. Apparently it needs to be explained to others.
He is not hurting anyone. Most of them are applied to his arms or legs – with the exception of one that he put across his nose the other day due to a pimple. It doesn’t interfere with his “work”, his activities or his life in general. It makes him happy. There are so many other/bigger issues to worry about. My time was never spent trying to make him conform to what other people may think to be “normal”. Safety issues – yes, his ability to navigate social or public situations – yes, communication – yes, independence – yes, life skills – yes but these little things that some people seem hell-bent to correct – no!
I could live without the Band-Aid wrappers all over the house…
DC calls me “Vickie” quite often. I think it is because he is always being told that he is an adult now, so therefore he should be allowed to call me by my first name. I doesn’t bother me in the least – I actually think it is kind of funny. This is one of those “connections” that he’s made in his head – he’s an adult, so he can use first names. I don’t like to discourage these connections that he makes. But some people seem to be horrified by it. Why? He knows I’m his mother. I know he loves me (he tells me all day long). He does still call me Mom more than half of the time and even if he did not, how is this interfering with his progress, his life, his job or anything for that matter? It does not.
I always find it a bit funny when other people point out these little “nothing” issues as ‘something I really need to work on’.
So, back to the Band-Aid situation….
Having just said that he only applies them to his arms, legs or hands……(and apparently he also has a stash in the kitchen, I knew nothing about)……….
please read my Facebook Status 8/6/14:
Last night I was on the phone with an automated system. I had to tell DC more than once to stay quiet because this system picks up any noise. After the fourth attempt, it was clear that the system was not going to take my information , so I gave up. I turned around to find DC with a Band-Aid over his mouth. I guess he didn’t trust himself to keep quiet on his own
And no, I did not get a picture, I was too busy laughing.
Even though I would ever advocate putting a Band-Aid over anyone’s mouth, and never would I encourage him to put a Band-Aid over his own mouth, I was still pretty impressed with his ability to make that connection in his head.
Progress and connections at times come out of the strangest of situations…………………